Saturday, October 6, 2012

Premarital Sex: A Bitter Pill?

I was listening to a late night show on FM 104.  In this show, people call the radio jockey and share their personal stuff. Although I found this really stupid, one lady caught my attention who was sharing her story how she was betrayed by her boyfriend while she was two months pregnant. She cried and kept crying  while she mentioned how she begged to boyfriend's mom to get married. She was kicked out of house and was labelled slut. Her boyfriend was getting married with someone else and left the girl alone to make decision whether to go for medical or surgical abortion. 

I could not slept for next few hours. I kept thinking about that girl. I felt pity for her. I felt angery on her why did she slept with him. I became judgmental but could not judge what's right and what's wrong.

I read somewhere that women give sex to have love and men give love to have sex. I guess that's how men and women are designed by almighty. 

The girl must be careful and boy must be responsible.

For men, sex and love are two different things. A woman would find it hard to digest that a man can be truly in love while sleeping with other woman. Sex is just a physical experience.  Man is designed to be polygamous. Social definitions have tamed him. 

Woman loves first, then she loves a lot. And then she forgets herself in her man and sex happens. She is not a man. For her, its not a bodily experience, its peak of emotions, its spiritual. For her, sex is a way to be closest with her man, the man whom she loves. 

A man gets orgasm does not matter how he feels about the woman in bed. Woman gets orgasm when she is in love and find her love truly with her. Sex becomes attached to her soul. If she is betrayed, she goes in guilt as its horrible for her to even imagine herself sleeping with somebody else. So she fights, she curse and yes she begs too. 

If woman believes that relationship is committed, even then man must not have sex with her if he is not sure about his commitment. 

Time has changed and changing a lot & faster. One night stand are becoming acceptable. My observation may have lost its relevance already. I do not know if I have made any sense at all.  But if you fall in a category as I assumed, I repeat, the girl must be careful and boy must be responsible.

Comments welcome!